Be Curious

I noticed something recently.

I was out at a social gathering with a mixed group of people, some who knew each other and some who did not.

Among the people who did not know each other, only a few even acknowledged the others. Almost no one properly introduced themselves or took a second to tell the other person their name. They didn't offer a handshake while looking the other person in the eye, and neither did they bother to ask for their name in return.

Sound old-fashioned?

So you don't introduce yourself. So what?

Sure, introductions can feel a bit awkward. Meeting new people can be uncomfortable. And I am not advocating for being that guy that over exuberantly accosts people and overtakes conversations with an aggressive introduction. That would be the opposite of the position I am attempting to lend my support.

Maybe it is old fashioned but I think a proper introduction and handshake are important.

I think we are losing more than we think.

It isn't really about the introduction or the hand shake.

It is about an interaction with another human being.

I believe humans have intrinsic worth.

People, real live humans, are worthy of our attention.

I don't think it is asking too much to endure a bit of discomfort and perhaps some awkwardness to acknowledge the other human.

A proper introduction communicates respect for the other person.

It says, “I am here, I respect you, and I am interested in this connection.”

In the words of Coach Lasso, "Be curious, not judgmental"

Coach Lasso

Our attention and curiosity are among the greatest gifts we can give to others.

Introduce yourself. Ask the stranger their name.

While you are there, maybe even ask them about their story.